Can I Search Through My Children's Phone And Computer?

Al-‘Allaamah Saalih Al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him)

Noble Shaykh -may Allaah grant you success- the questioner asks:

"Is it permissible for me as a parent to search through the mobile phone and computer of my children, fearing that there may be something upon them?"

The Shaykh responded:

"Yes, this is obligatory upon you. It is [mandatory] that you inspect them and look through them. How many times have I mentioned to you that should not buy them mobile phones that have the capability to do more than [make a call] and speak on them..."

The questioner said, may Allaah preserve you:

"Some people say that this type of behavior on behalf of the father is deemed to be spying, which has been prohibited. Is there any truth to this statement?"

The Shaykh responded,

"This speech is false and erroneous. The parent is commanded to nurture and educate their children, supervise them and to monitor them. It is compulsory for them do this, and this is not considered to be spying. This is fulfilling the mandatory duty that Allaah has placed upon him..."

http://www.sahab.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=134967

Translated by Hassan Somali
10/1/2013

Know Your Mahrams

Know Your Mahram's (arabic plural: mahaarim) 

and Teach Them To Your Children

Source: http://www.islamographic.com/

Order Your Children to Pray at Seven – By the Hijri Calendar, not Gregorian!

Source: http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2010/09/09/order-your-children-to-pray-at-seven-by-the-hijri-calendar-not-gregorian/

Because if you wait until your child turns seven by the calendar of the kuffaar (gregorian), then you are more than two months late in ordering them to pray!  This is because the Gregorian calendar is solar, while the Hijri calendar is lunar and thus is ten days shorter every year than the solar calendar.  I found this very beneficial reminder in my inbox, it was forwarded a bunch of times so I don’t know the site it came from, but brother Moosa Richardson signed off at the end of the statement I pasted below, so I assume it is his words, may Allah reward him.  Regardless of the source, the statement is one of truth and as we know, when the truth comes to us, we take it regardless of the source.

“…Ages of the mashaayikh should be given in hijri years, as we should mention our own ages.  A person who has reached 60 (hijri) years, is 60 years old, not 58 as the non-Muslims would consider him based on their method of keeping track of the years.  This plays an important role in a Muslim’s life, for example the parent is responsible for ordering the child to pray when he reaches seven years (not 7 and a quarter years based on Gregorian calendars).  Thats hijri, not gregorian.  Likewise, 10 years for the other part of the hadeeth.  Likewise, 15 for puberty for those who say that a person is baaligh at 15 if no physical signs have come.  Likewise, when one takes an oath for a month “ash-Shahru hakathaa wa haakathaa, wa haakathaa… ” (“A month is 30 days – or 29).  One who enters into a contract for a “year” – without specifying a year according to the non-Muslims (Gregorian), etc.  This topic was covered somewhat extensively this summer in Toronto.

Perhaps the most important danger in living totally by the Gregorian calender would be: delays in paying zakaat.  For if a person pays every Gregorian year, then he would be 10-11 days late EVERY year.  After 30 years or so he would miss an entire year.  This is a pillar of Islaam.  Actually all four pillars after the shahaadatayn have some reliance on the hijri calender.  So it is important for a Muslim to be thouroughly aqcuainted with it.  May Allaah bless you.

And if you want to convert any significant date (Hijree to gregorian, or vice-versa), the following resource is good:  http://www.rabiah.com/convert/

And Allaah knows best

Moosaa ibn John Richardson
Check this link for hijri date conversion: http://www.islamicfinder.org/dateConversion.php

Little Hands – Babys, Toddlers and Mothers Group

FW: 

Croydon ICT is pleased to announce we will soon be hosting “Little Hands – Babys, Toddlers and Mothers Group” InshaAllah.

 

We are working in association with sisters within our community to provide this service, as we continue to listen to and meet the demands of our community, Alhamdulillah.

For more details about this initiative, please visit our website www.croydonict.com or click on the image above.

WE NEED YOUR HELP TO SETUP!! – REQUEST FOR ITEMS
If anyone has any of the following items spare or unwanted (but in good condition), the sisters behind Little Hands would like to request you to donate them to the Masjid so that they can be used in the group.

ITEMS REQUIRED: Toys / Paper / Paint / Felt-tips / Crayons / Easels / Indoor slides / Indoor climbing frames / Soft mats / Child friendly room dividers / Plastic cutlery, plates, cups / Play-dough / Counting beads / Books / Dressing up clothes / Dolls houses / Aprons / Sand or water pit / White board or black board / Baby walkers, bouncers and car-seats / Islamic or Educational vhs/dvds/cds/cassettes

Please drop off any items that you can donate at the Admin Office or bookshop. Any large items can be picked up from your home.

For further information, please call or email Umm Juwayriya:
ummjuwayriya@hotmail.co.uk
JazakAllahukhairun, Croydon ICT Management.

Good Treatment to Our Parents

Surat al Isra 17:23-24 states:

Ayat 23:

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

Waqada rabbuka alla ta3budooilla iyyahu wa bilwalidayni ihsananimma yablughanna 3indaka alkibara ahaduhumaaw kilahuma fala taqul lahuma offinwala tanharhuma waqul lahuma qawlan kareema

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.

Ayat 24:

وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

Wakhfid lahuma janahaaththulli mina arrahmati waqulrabbi irhamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheera

And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."

Playing and Having Fun with the Child:

Playing and Having Fun with the Child

There is no doubt that playing and having fun with one's child has a great effect on his correct and proper upbringing. This is since playing is a part of his life that he should not be deprived of.

So do not trivialize the act of playing with children for you will be clashing against their natures and the dispositions upon which the were created. Instead, participate with the in their games. Play with them and have fun with them to the point that they love you, enjoy your company and heed your advice and guidance. Allah said to his Prophet sws:


"And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have disbanded from about you." [Surah Aali 'Imraam: 159]

The Prophet sws was the best os people towards his family as he sws said: "The best of you is he who is best towards his family, and I am the best towards my family." [Reported by Al-Haakim] 66

The prophet sws would play and have fun with children. Abu Hurairah radiaallahuahu said: "The Messenger of Allaah would stick his tongue out to Al-Husayn bin 'Alee, so the boy would see the redness of his tongue and become ecstatic." 67

'Umar radiaallahuanhu said: "I saw Al-Hasan and Al-Husayn on the shoulders of the Prophet sws so I said: "What an excellent steed you two have below you." And the Messenger of Allaah sws said: "And what excellent riders they are!" [Reported by Abu Ya'laa] 68

The Prophet sws would also pray around with the brother of Anas bin Maalik radiaallahuanhu, saying: "O Abu 'Umair, what happened to the nughair?" [Agreed Upon] 69

And once he sws passed by a group of people from the tribe of Aslam who were practicing archery, so he said: "Shoot, tribe of Isma'eel, for indeed your forefather was a marksman. Continue shooting and I am with tribe so and so." Upon this, one of the teams refrained from competing, so the Prophet sws said: "Why aren't you shooting your arrows?" They said: "How can we shoot when you are with them?" So he sws said: "Continue shooting and I am with all of you." [Reported by Al-Bukhaaree] 70

'Abdullah bin Al-Haarith radiaallahuanhu said: "The Messenger of Allaah sws would line up (the children) - 'Abdullaah, 'Ubaidullaah and Katheer - of the tribe of 'Abbaas and day to them: 'Race towards me, and whoever reaches me first will get something (i.e. as a reward).' So they would race towards him and jump on his back and front and he sws would kiss and hug them." [Reported by Ahmad] 71

'Aishaah, may Allaah be pleased with her, would play with girls, and the Prophet sws would dispatch them to her so that she could play with them." [Agreed Upon] 72

Through the means of playing, you can instill good characteristics into your children - characteristics such as honesty, fidelity and so on. You can also use activities and games to make them aware of condemnable characteristics such as lying, treachery, deception, use of obscene language and so on.

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66 Reported by At-Tirmidhee (3895) from narration of 'Aishaah may Allaah be pleased with her, and he said it was a "hasan saheeh" hadeeth; and Ibn Maajah (1977) reported it from Ibn 'Abbaas. As for the narration reported by Al-Haakim from Abu Hurairah, then its wording is: "The best of you is he who is best to this family after me.". Reported by Al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak (3/352, no. 5359) and authenticated upon the standards of Muslim and Adh-Dhahabee agreed.

67 Reported by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh (12/408, no. 5596) and (15/431, no. 9675)

68 Quoted by Al-Haithamee in Majma'-uz-Zawaa'id (9/182) and he said: " Abu Ya'laa reported it in al-Kabeer and its narrators are all of the standards of the Saheeh Collection." Al-Bazzaar also reported it (1/418, no. 293)

69 Reported by Al-Bukharee (6129 and 6203) and Muslim (2150)

70 Reported by Al-Bukharee (2899) from Salamah bin Al-Akwa' radiaallahuanhu

71 Reported by Ahmad in al-Musnad (3/335, no. 1836)

72 Reported by Al-Bukharee (6130) and Muslim (2440) from the narration of 'Aishaah, may Allaah be pleased with her.

Book: Raising children in Light of the Qur'aan & Sunnah, by 'Abdus-Salaam bin 'Abdillah As-Sulaymaan whit an introduction by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan (Page. 46,47 y 48)

neglecting to teach

"The one who neglects to teach his son that which will benefit him and leaves him to his own devices has wronged him severely.

Most children only become corrupt because of their parents and their neglect of them, and their failure to teach them the obligatory duties and Sunnahs of Islaam.

They neglect them when they are young then they are not able to benefit themselves or their parents when they grow up."

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) [Tuhfat al-Mawdood (p. 229)]